For a serious and long-term relationship there are certain points that you just need to know about your partner.
1. How he handles money.
It is important to understand how a person spends his money, whether he has debts, whether he is accustomed to borrow, whether he can save. Although not all families have a common budget, you will still have total expenses, so you need to know in advance what to count on.
2. What does he think about children.
Even if you are not thinking about children yet, this is an important topic for discussion. Perhaps your partner does not want children at all, and in principle you dream about it. Then it is better to discuss it right away and not to hope that one of you will change your mind.
If both of you want children, then it is worth discussing how fundamentally you want to educate them: will you instill some kind of religion? What are you planning to give education? Who will deal with the child?
Do not be afraid that these are too serious topics for conversation. The sooner you determine how you look at the future, the more confident you will be in your relationship.
3What are his religious and political views.
For some people, these are completely unimportant topics, while for others they can be life principles. Some people may not be religious at first glance, but then suddenly they want to baptize a child in a church. All these moments are better to find out right away.
4. How he sees his life.
You should have the same expectations and wishes for your future if you are going to build it together. Does he want to travel or stay at home? Is he ready to move? What are his goals? Do they interfere with your goals?
5. What is the meaning for him of sex and sex?
Maybe he considers the correspondence with the former treason? Or does not consider emotional treason a real betrayal? How often does he want to have sex?
6. How he monitors his health.
You need to be aware of his chronic diseases and health risks in order to understand what may happen. It is also desirable to have the same approach to a healthy lifestyle.
7. His need for personal space.
Openly discuss your personal boundaries, personal time for everyone in a relationship, meeting friends and family.
8. How he behaves in a quarrel.
It is better to know in advance that when a quarrel begins, it is better for him to leave and be alone, so that later you would not take it on a personal account.
For a relationship to take shape, you need more than just love. It is important that you approach each other and know how to honestly and openly discuss important topics.