Why I do not give my husband my passwords

“I have to tell you,” my friend wrote to me in a personal message. - Vika now has access to my Facebook page and all messages. Not that you once said something wrong, but I think you should know. Maybe we will create a new page together. ”

Oh, the mercy of the new love.

“Thank you for warning me,” I answered. - Please remove the entire history of our correspondence. No offense, I just do not know Vika, and I did not write all those messages to her. I am so happy for you, and I wish you all the best. ”

After that, I removed it from my friends.

I understand the meaning of all this: transparency. United front.If you have nothing to hide, why should you be bothered that your partner knows your passwords?A joint page will show everyone the depth of your relationship and prevent misunderstandings. Right?
I am happy married, I have two beautiful children and a mortgage. The point is not that I refuse to give my husband access to my accounts - the fact is that I do not offer him that, but he does not ask. It never occurred to us. I have many friends in my life and online with whom I have had a relationship.These people are part of my life, my past and my present, and they are important to me. My husband has his own online interests, completely different. And I also do not need his passwords.

Am I worried? Not.

I read many articles and tirades about how social networks contribute to betrayal, destroy relationships, and undermine trust. Social networks make cheating easier. They make people vulnerable to emotional betrayal and cause them to make terrible cardinal decisions.

Well, just like tequila. I bet that a lot of extramarital relations begin with a joint visit to the church, but I still do not see a bunch of articles about it.

But the thing is:

Facebook, or another social network, does not undermine or destroy our relationship. If this happens, then one or both people are to blame for the relationship.

Requiring passwords means that trust has already been eroded. If you have reached the point when you need access to password-protected information to prove your partner’s loyalty, it is likely that it is too late. If my husband asked to go to my Facebook page, then something would have gone wrong.

Borders are very important for maintaining autonomy. This autonomy is how we live our lives in our common life, how we can share with each other and thereby enrich our relationship.

And I'm not only worried about my borders.Facebook helped me to restore friendship with people who are far away. And those personal details that they share with me are purely their moments, and my husband should not read it. It's like letting him overhear a personal conversation with a girlfriend.
My relationship with my husband is the most important in my life, but my love for him does not mean that I can break the trust of other people who decided to trust me.

I am sure that there are marriages that work better when the relationship is completely transparent. Some people simply do not know another way to deal with distrust. And we all know at least one charming couple, which simply can not be without each other. Couples who have a common page on the social network. And this is also normal. Simply, it should not be a prerequisite for trust.

My husband can go to any of my accounts right now - he knows that he should only ask. But I know that he will never do that.

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