How long to wait before having sex is the most hotly discussed topic. For example, you are passionate about someone and your mutual chemistry is indisputable. You immediately feel the attractiveness and explosive sexual energy between you. What to do in this case? Check out or go with him to where your body wants to be?
This is an eternal struggle with myself: if I jump into bed from the first date, I risk losing something that could have long-term potential. Sex may be fantastic, but what will it leave you after? What if a partner gets the wrong idea about you? And if I wait and build an emotional connection before having sex, will it bring me a stable, strong relationship?
When we fall in love, a lot of endorphins enter our brain, but at the same time we don’t know for sure whether this feeling can grow into something more. In this situation, you need to decide for yourself what kind of relationship you are looking for? If you are set up for a long-term relationship, you must first build spiritual bridges with each other.Talk about hopes, thoughts, plans for the future, the values of each of you, so that your partner will understand what you want and that you will note for yourself whether its values are the same as yours.
According to recent studies, when people were asked about what is permissible on the first date, 50% answered “nothing” (no touching, no sexual contact), and 45% made kisses. In addition, 50% of respondents (men and women) admitted that they really want to know their fan, not in the sexual sense, but in the spiritual.
On the other hand, when asked when we are ready for sex there is no exact answer, because this is the same as asking: are you ready for marriage or for children? Therefore, there is a place for experience, and experience is impossible without trying. Even if we can get a refusal or misunderstand us - all this experience, we learn from our mistakes.
In addition, we learn sexually. What we like and what brings pleasure to the partner. You do not ask in bed about his deep view of life and plans for the future, but simply know each other physically.