Memories are what old people live. They literally, day after day and step by step, recall their lives and take apart small details. It was at this time that the realization comes that so much has been done wrong, how unreasonable was the use of time, which has never been returned.
Psychologist and writer Anna Kiryanova saw one feature in the stories of the elderly. This is a deep and accurate conclusion. And this is exactly what the younger generation should work with ...
What we regret in old age?
Most of all, in old age, we will not be sorry that we traveled a little.
Not that they paid little attention to their spiritual development. And not about the fact that poorly raised their children.
And not that they did not devote themselves to art. Although maybe this will regretOf course, some psychologists write. Which is still far from old age.
I spoke with many very old people who were completely in my mind. Most of all they regretted thatallowed themselves to use brazenly.
And suffered resentment, undeserved and vile.“Why couldn’t I answer when the boss forced me to work for three?” One lady said.
And another recalled relatives who came to visit the room where she huddled with her two children and her husband. And lived at a party for weeks. And she cleaned, washed, cooked and treated everything, as it should be - although by whom it is necessary?
Someone endured the cruelty of a drunken husband.
Someone - the sassy requirements of completely outsiders.Not out of cowardice or cowardice - but just not to offend anyone, not to hurt.
Stay in the eyes of consumers a kind person.That's about all the polls regretted it. And they thought out loud how now, from the height of past years, they simply and calmly refused.
Hot water was given once a week. And to the woman with three children on that day all the relatives moved in with the laundry. Well, and all swam, of course. And she had no time to wash and bathe the children.And at the age of ninety, she recalled it with bitterness and bewilderment — not why her relatives did this. And why she did not find words for refusal ...
She was very offended!
This is what we will definitely regret -about aimlessly and ineptly wasted time, about efforts and sacrifices, about voluntary slavery.
About unnecessary patience- which no one appreciated. So do not need to endure too much. Then there will be strength and time for traveling, for children, for grandchildren, and for art. And health will remain. And there will be no bitterness in your soul - you just need to learn to say no.
And that's all.
Or just ignore cheeky requests, devoting yourself to art, travel or leisure.