Janusz Korczak is a symbolic person in world pedagogy.
This man not only developed an innovative system of education, he really loved children. And all his life he tried to teach his parents to understand the language of the child.
He spent the last moments of his life with his students, and with them lost his life in the death camp during the Holocaust, refusing to be released, although he had such an opportunity. He did not want to betray the children and leave them, even facing such a difficult choice.
In the whole teaching activity of Janusz Korczak there was one idea:the teacher must love children.
1.Do not lie to children. We can deceive the child, based on considerations of momentary comfort, but later we will pay dearly for this act. More often -payment will be the loss of trust of the offspringor the fact that he creates a controversial picture of the world instead of a holistic and consistent. It is extremely difficult for a child to live in a world where the words of the parents are not true.
Love your baby, be honest and fair with him, sincerely be interested in his successes and failures, support him and take care!
2.If you do not know what to answer, better shut up and think. There is nothing wrong with giving an answer to the child the next day. If you do not want to answer, think about why this is happening: you are afraid for a child or for the fact that truth can destroy you.Remember: children can accept any truth if it is normally perceived by an adult.presenting it. For a start, take care of yourself and then talk to your son. But just do not try to lie!
3.Do not forget the promises. Forgetfulness is a form of deception. The child will remember - and after the fact will be offended. If promised, follow. If you remember what you have forgotten - talk about it with your child. Tell him that you suddenly remembered, but be sure to fulfill the promise.This will strengthen the child’s confidence in the world.will make him understand that you respect him and also teach him to be obligatory.
4.Do not imitate interest and participation.. No need to talk about the masterpiece of the picture, while looking at the TV. Either break away from the show, orhonestly admit you're busy nowand can not consider everything in detail, but when done - be sure to appreciate his work. And don't forget to see when you're done.
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5.No need to scoop a child with gifts, paying off for the fact that you give him very little time. For your absence, now "pay" presence: go together wherever you want.
It is better to give the child his time, not money. Otherwise, his love will be associated with commodity-money relations. If you are worried about tantrums in the store, then explain to the child what the days are and where they come from.
Mom from our forum with a nicknameListrashared her experience: "I hate lies to children. I try never to lie to my own, and not to promise if I can't do it. Or I agree that I will try, but I don’t know how to do it - and I always try. Always, when I don’t buy, I say:" No! " And very rarely do I make spontaneous purchases with children, they do not beg. ".
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6.Sincerely ask for forgiveness if wrong. Adults are often mistaken in the belief that they are infallible and absolutely right. Any dictates create evil.Remember this!
7.Give your child the right to choosewhenever possible. This may include food, clothing, toys, trips to the grandmother. So he gets the idea thatis entitled to their own opinionwhich is taken into account.
8.Failure of the child take seriously. If you think that he has the right to "no" in a particular situation - agree. If he does not want to go to his grandmother when you provide a choice, do not take him to his grandmother. Otherwise just do not ask his opinion.
9.No need to compete for second parent love. Better support respect for him in the child and do not ask provocative questions who he loves more.The child should not feel guilty for the fact that at the moment he preferred one of the parents. Otherwise, you will reinforce it in the thought that mom and dad can be compared. Ideally, each of you should be an indispensable figure.
10.Praise the child!Celebrate his good deeds, success in any kind of activity. Butdo not say: "You are the best!"because it is very hard to be the best.