How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover?

Not every person can see the manipulation and even direct violence from a loved one.

This is because “suppression” begins imperceptibly and gradually progresses. A woman in this situation is a “frog in boiling water,” getting used to this state of affairs.

But, unfortunately, it is not always possible to reveal a potential tyrant from the very first days or even months of dating in a new lover. Such people are well able to disguise and behave differently in different situations.

Do not think thattypical tyrant- unbalanced, spiteful type. Outside the circle of his family, he can be described as a good friend, professional in his business and a nice person.

[reclam] How can you understand at the very early stages that you already have “toxic” relations with the aggressor, or not to let such a person into your life at all?

Control

Your lover is watching how and what you dress, with whom you meet and where to go? Does he constantly call you, explaining that with concern? You may consider this behavior romantic, but note that such concern is a disturbing bell. This is how the proprietary instinct manifests itself.

Please note that in these cases is the reason for this behavior. The owner is more interested in potential rivals, and not at all your health and well-being. Sometimes jealous people don't even hide it.

After all, jealousy is a form of control, brought to an obsessive state. No matter how hard you try to prove the purity of your intentions, this pathology will progress further, eventually reaching the point of absurdity.

Manipulation

The aggressor always puts conditions beneficial only to him. At the same time, he can achieve his own not only by threats. He can "put pressure on pity," lie, make illogical arguments to confirm that he is right. His task is to make you obey his will.

It is possible that he is not satisfied with some of the contradictions between you, but he does not intend to compromise at all.Moreover, contradictions often lie in your desire to have your own opinion and the right to a personal (independent) life.

Often, instead of requests, direct bans are used. As soon as it comes to prohibitions - draw conclusions. No one has the right to forbid something to a capable person if he considers him to be such.

Also note how often you yield. Did you have to give up any important ideas, aspirations and desires that were priorities for you before meeting with your beloved?

Insulation

Does your partner criticize your loved ones, forbids to communicate with them? Why does he not like your friends, acquaintances and even relatives?

Similarly, your chosen one is trying to negatively set you up against them or, if that fails, by blackmailing you to prevent you from communicating at all. So the aggressor is trying to deprive you of reliable support from those to whom you are not indifferent, making you even more dependent and unable to assess the situation from the outside.

Frequent mood swings

Is your partner quick-tempered and overly emotional? In a fit of anger, he can insult you from scratch, and then apologize for a long time.

Do not look for reasons and conduct psychoanalysis.Most likely, with other people whom he respects or fears (for example, his superiors), he will not behave this way.

In any case, decide for yourself whether you want to be a vessel for draining negative emotions.

There are other, more serious signs of an obvious and potential aggressor, by which it can be calculated immediately.

Signs of the aggressor

Do not doubt your refusal to have a relationship with a person who has at least one of the following signs:

Immediately run, if ...

1.Propensity to violence. Physical violence is unacceptable in principle, regardless of gender, age or nationality. If your partner shows himself “give up” to someone, you shouldn’t hope that one day he will not use force against you.

The same goes for adhering to radical ideas that support violence.

If the partner still hit you, immediately leave, despite any romantic exploits for the sake of forgiveness - the situation will definitely happen again.

2.Animal abuse. Relations with a frank sadist, enjoying power over a defenseless creature, will not bring anything good to any adequate person.

3.Hate and contempt for women. In this case, it is naive to believe that your lover will treat you somehow differently, even if he claims that you are “special.” After some time, he may come to a different conclusion about your "features", no matter how hard you try to show your best sides.

If at the same time he follows the rule of “women cannot be beaten”, then this is not a guarantee that you are protected from physical violence. Such attitudes themselves do not mean anything and are easily supplemented in the head of the abuser with various exceptions, including in the definition of "real woman."

4.Alcohol or drugs. Under the action of narcotic substances, a person changes beyond recognition. And even if in a sober state, he makes a positive impression, one should not forget that there are periods when he can be extremely aggressive towards others, especially close people.

5.Refusal to accept refusal. Think seriously if your “no” means nothing to your partner. Perseverance is appropriate anywhere, except for the relationship between two partners who respect each other’s feelings and desires.

Finally, always remember that the sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship must be mutual.Do not waste time on those who demand too much from you. Surround yourself only with people with whom you feel comfortable and calm, because only with them no life difficulties are terrible.

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  • How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover

    How to recognize a tyrant and a potential aggressor in your lover