He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

Myth # 1. Communication with a married man is immoral, but in our case it is love.

Nope It is still immoral. Theft remains theft, even if it is stolen in the name of someone's good. Maybe the term will be knocked off - but they will plant it all the same. And if I steal for my own good, they will also throw it over. Do not fool yourself, you act immorally. Against human laws. And no love here is an excuse. About love is another story. I won't even talk about it here. But if it hurts you all the time and sometimes it’s good - this is not a sign of love.

Myth # 2. If I don't see my wife, then she doesn't exist.

She exists. In his every morning, day and forgive me - nights too. She lives in his phone, and does not always write him nasty things. Sometimes, she writes that she missed and asks for candy. And he smiles and writes something that would make our ears turn red. They have their evening rituals, half hints, jokes that only they can understand. They have a whole life in which there is not and was not you. And she for him, damn it, has value.That is why he is lying to you at parting with his sad eyes and running headlong there. Home. To the wife. Believe, it exists.

It really exists. And she does it every day. I had the good fortune to be friends with the wife of my man - the santabarbara of my psyche was making strange somersaults. I was unpleasantly struck by how similar they are. These are very close people, with a huge overall backpack. True, she was more honest and kinder than him. And I loved very much, even me, because at that time I was in the area of ​​its habitat.

Myth # 3. He does not love her, he has nothing to talk about with her.

Here's a stop. Come in order. It was to her that he proposed to spend life together. Or just agreed to it. He got up on his knee or chose a special place, he thought out words or listened to it inertly. But he made this step, you will not believe. He did with her what he so far has not decided on you.

Live together every fucking day. See her in hair curlers, eat her trademark scrambled eggs, choose perfumes on March 8, go to stupid shops for a warm jacket for yourself and a new hat for her. And so all my life, count? A wife is not a swear word. This is a measure of man’s determination. And, apparently, the measure of his real feelings.And the campaign was a strategic reserve of this feeling and this determination. Where are they doing it? That is their question, baby. Only them. Not ours with you.

Myth # 4. He loves me.

Stop again. Reread the previous paragraph. And try again to repeat this mantra. If not rolled, we feel our ears. Remove from them sticky noodles, and stop loving them. Ears are not for love, no. They want to listen to music, birds singing, the breath of your child. A man learns about love to judge by his deeds. So what did he do out of love for you? Just give in garlic. He happily glee showed you the world? He took you to his damn mom on their infinitely distant summer cottage? (just don't lie that it doesn't matter to you)

Did he attend to your values, and put them into his action plans? Is he honest in his intentions, and open to real non-opaque relationships? Does he have something to offer you, except short words and password-protected appearances? He bought a damn ring, chose a damn romantic place and picked up damn right words? It is important for him what you sweat at night when you suddenly ask yourself a question - does he have sex with his wife ??? But what if! (I do not want to upset you, but most likely I am, they are married. And the most lousy - it will not be a betrayal of you, no.

You are not a wife. This is her she changes with you).In short, did he at least do something to confirm his endless SMS and tear revelations? Or does he hang on your ears and nobly nudite there about his lost life and responsibility for those whom he tamed? In short, look at the ears. And use them for their intended purpose. And it is better, at least for a while, to wash them with wax, like an old wizard from Cinderella — so that evil people do not use them for their “love”.

Myth # 5. Everything suits me completely, I am a man of broad modern views.

... a wide Russian, too wide, I would have narrowed! © You and I do not touch upon the subject of professional transactions right now, this is not interesting. We are not talking about business, where a man gets his bull high, and a woman owes a bonus. We are about love, ears, modernity and geometry. We are about the soul. Let's rewind back and try to find the moment of your life, in which you castrated yourself to please something. In which you have become smartly talk about freedom, equality and fraternity. In which you decided that a full-fledged diet - too much, enough for the buter on the run. When you slammed children's fairy tales with pictures about a knight and a princess in the tower, about victories over dragons and kashchei, about “the only woman and only man”, and chose Samantha Jones as your ideal. Listen, do you want it?

Are you really like that? There is another organ in the human body. The heart is called. Try to listen to him, is it there about nothing whining? Are you really okay with a fast fuck in a hotel? Or do you want radiant, open, fabulous, damn knightly devotion? Be honest with this body. Because it was he who was created for love. And believe, in our faint modernity - love still exists. And she is still the same - honest, open, ready for anything. She - finally can not change. She is alone at all times.

Myth # 6. He will “ripen”, come to me, and everything will be different with us. We will have happiness.

We know, swam, tell. “I matured”, came, and we had all the same garbage, 4 years old, with complications. Only I was already in the place of my wife in this geometric equation. Because it's not about her, his hateful wife. And in him, which fucking does not know how to work in a relationship, and used to running for fast dope to the side. He is simply unable to take responsibility for his choice. Be honest and loyal. To be in sorrow and in joy. He needs someone third, fourth, tenth to ward off the “soul” and loins. Perhaps, once it will change, this can not be ruled out.But not your love will change it, baby. Your love is not able to form an alien moral body. This is the personal work of everyone, alone with himself. Therefore, get ready for a dizzying flight under the dome of the circus - to the place of his former wife. When he and his suitcase knock on your door.

Myth # 7. Their relationship has not been stuck for a long time, and I have nothing to do with it. Our love simply became a catalyst in this half-life blah blah blah reaction.

Yeah, and in the bushes was a piano by chance. Let's start with the main thing. What should collapse - collapse without our participation. And if it does not fall apart, it means it holds. And do not put a charge of dynamite under what is crooked, askew, but worth it. We have no ownership of this building. It is someone else's. And is it so bad it keeps, that all our tears, reproaches, heartache, tasty dinners and fishnet stockings are not able to destroy it?

One friend, decorating my auditory organs with noodles, called his marriage a “business project” in the name of the child. It took me a while to realize that not every business can last 10 years. Hike, their project is not so bad, alas, I cursed.

Myth # 8. These are my feelings, and I love him - whoever he is.

Here is the most zapadlo. Here is the myth of selfless love. And through him - it's really hard to wade ... Here you have to deal with “Love” with a capital L, and the topic is slippery, many people have broken their legs on it ... but - come on Love, come on. Let's try to understand - who do you love? Him? Or "light image", which is not a fact that is related to the original. Most likely - it does not have, because the producer of this image is you.

And this real guy was produced by someone else. And the chance that your drawings coincided is minimal. Do you know his real? How does he argue that such expensive creams to his wife do not need anything, as he deceives when he is sent for vegetables, how he does not want to play with his son, but wants to watch football? Love is a daily joint action, weaving, creativity. And its field of habitat is a reality. And only she. Everything else may not be bad, but this is fantasy. It is critically important not to confuse these two poles.

Myth # 9. They are not married. Officially.

Do not care. He is not free. Run, Forest, until you got stuck.

And the most paradox here is that it is most likely good. His wife. And perhaps you are in many ways similar, and if you meet in a canteen, pool or at a training session, you would like each other. And they became girlfriends. It is not bad, just because it stands between you.Try to make an adult decision not to do shit. From the principle. From female solidarity. Out of the simple conviction that he does not make candy out of him. Components are not the same.

All these myths - I created myself, and destroyed myself, in the delirium of asymmetrical relations trying to find my own stable happiness. At the price of broken foreheads, broken foreheads and foreheads of broken ones. I had big problems with love and geometry. And finally, I will allow myself a small but practical advice (although you did not ask for it). If a married dude who came to you - you didn’t like it, raise your hands to heaven and thank Jesus, Allah, the universe, or someone you believe in. And crawl away quietly, without engaging in dialogue.

If he turned out to be handsome, run without turning around and pray along the way. But if suddenly He seemed mysterious to you, in his own way unhappy and somehow congenial in spirit - then the question of speed becomes decisive. The maximum speed and distance that you have time to escape. Only then, having recovered your breath, and feeling the closeness of the Canadian border, whisper to some keeper who is responsible for your safety: urgently, urgently, help me!

Keep me from it! Well, when you meet someone who will be 100% ready to be with you, be old-fashioned, faithful, always - remember the good words of the old wise Kaa. He will be pleased. What he also said so to speak. That the next moth does not burn on this candle.

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  • He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy

    He, his wife whom he does not love, and I, from whom he is crazy