How often do we hear stories about broken young people, so happy in the first days of their life together, families. After all, everything began so beautifully! It was a great bright feeling, and if someone could in these moments think that there are such things as dissimilarity of characters and the opposite of interests and, in the end, just life. But almost always there comes a moment when you realize that something is going wrong, illusions disappear, and reality comes.
You start to notice both the scattered socks, and the dishes that were not cleaned behind you, and a lot of things that didn’t fit in with the dreams of a family paradise. Psychologists have noticed that this occurs on average after a year of living together. And even the name of this phenomenon came up with: "The crisis of the first year of living together." Yes,indeed, the relationship between spouses tends to change, calming feelings, romance in many moments of everyday life becomes ridiculous. Leaving the old passion and emotions. And there are two ways of developing relations - destruction, insulting and bitter separation, or the transition of relations to a completely new level.It all depends on you, and if you know that the person you chose to live together is still dear to you and love you, start working on building new relationships that will become the basis and guarantee of your truly happy family.
During their life together, any married couple develops their own unique style of relationships, which can be defined as a partnership, friendship, or love that lasts for many years. But in any case, you need to remember one mandatory rule:do not keep a negative, which caused problems in your relationship. Of course, you can not allow yourself and the constant clarification of relations in a raised voice, but it is necessary to calmly explain. This will help to remove the burden from the soul and find a joint way out of a seemingly hopeless situation. And the way out can be quite simple - just share your worries and worries about work or financial difficulties, help each other cope with the difficulties caused by ailments or having a baby. These are, of course, the simplest examples, but there are cases when the cause of discord lies in ourselves.This is the lack of readiness for complete frankness with a spouse due to insecurity that they will understand you correctly, and the resulting omissions, and, as a result, his distrust. This and insufficient attention paid to each other, often the cause of adultery.
What to do, how to help yourself not to lose love, to save your family and all that you once associated with this sacred word? To start,free up as much time for each other- Stop staying up late at work, untie your hands with the help of a babysitter or visiting housekeeper. It is possible that even this will already be enough to get things going. But still do not neglect the following tips:
- find out the relationship only when you are calm;
—avoid any criticism of your spouse;
- never interrupt each other;
- try to more often express their goodwill and attention to the spouse;
—be able to admit your mistakes and forgive.
Never forget thatA happy marriage is a daily work, the components of which are patience, and, of course, love, including self.