Getting to school for the first time, a child motivated to study is very positive. He expects that there is waiting for him a lot of new and interesting. Happiness, if that's what happens. But often a bunch: “learning is interesting” is crumbling in most children after the very first days of communication with teachers. And ironically, collapsing exactly where they should love this knowledge! With each year of school education, the picture only worsens. But the harder it is to press on the child, convincing that learning is necessary and it should be done only “well”, the harder it is for him morally. Studying becomes a heavy duty and entails either overstraining or protest in the form of unfulfilled lessons and absenteeism.
Help children make schooling not so divorced from reality, fill knowledge with lively and interesting examples. The child begins to learn biology - plant a bed of parsley with him; show how the flowers and fruits look and what they consist of. And it is advisable to do all this in advance (even before the teacher asks you to read a smart paragraph in the textbook). In addition, it will give his son the opportunity to distinguish themselves in the classroom, surprising the teacher with extensive knowledge in this field.It is also better to “run” with him on the lesson-two ahead in each subject.
"Think with your head!"
The huge reservoir that our education system does not provide for the child is food for the soul and the heart. Starting from the first grade, children are taught what they need to think, think and think, and not like they used to, when it was necessary to solve some problems (for example: learn to speak, to understand adults), but ALWAYS! Always thinking is not an easy task even for scholars, but what can we say about a creature who still does not understand why he is forbidden to play soldiers in a lesson.
Almost all 10 basic educational years nobody teaches children ... to feel, therefore, often a person’s emotional maturity stops at the age of a preschooler. That is why our children are really so boring at school! In the absence of positive emotions, learning becomes just “tasteless” - every day is the same! The system forces and forces, and this works far from always.
1. It’s impossible to do something with the school itself, but it’s quite possible to determine the child’s attitude to different subjects, find the weakest “boring” places among them and try to fill them.It is not difficult to instill in the son a lesson for some lesson - it is enough to give him some “interesting” impulses and convince him that in this area he is just a genius! Then he will treat the subject with curiosity, closing his eyes to the form of filing and listening only to the very essence of what the teacher presents.
2. And the second, even more important conclusion. In the absence of a professional approach to the upbringing, the child will fill up the missing aspects of his emotional development, imitating his parents and his closest environment. Try to behave exactly as you wanted him to behave as an adult. Words and teachings here do not matter - the general pattern of behavior, attitudes towards the world (friendly, passive or aggressive), the threshold of morality and some individual character traits will be copied.
"Memorize by heart"
Many children, especially conscious ones, often themselves feel that they do not study well enough. And even make some effort to correct the situation. But this does not work for two reasons.
The first. Cramming does not help, and the child does not know how.
The second. Over time, the stigma of a middling troechnik is so firmly rooted in children's consciousness that all efforts are in vain.He himself lowers the bar for success: “I try, but I have bad grades. Probably, I'm still stupid ... ”The son will carry this harmful installation with him through life, therefore it is very important to catch the seed while still approaching the“ fertile ”soil and not let it germinate.
In fact, there are many alternative ways to help the child improve performance - from real auxiliary systems, such as eidetic or kinesilology, and to psychological ones - to increase his self-esteem. In order to solve the puzzle, it is not necessary to attack in the forehead and do only what the teacher recommends. Look at the world wider - there are plenty of opportunities! And then help the child choose the most interesting form of “knowledge hunt”.
“We walk neatly”
The big problem of the classical education system is “leveling”. No matter what qualities, speed of knowledge and inclinations a child possesses, in a regular school he is provided with a standard level of education. It is interesting to you or not, it is necessary to devote so many hours to the “theory of the infield plot” - kindly come and go! I want to study the subject more deeply - buy adult books and delve into it, but they will not put it above 12 points. It is quite possible that Einstein Junior sits at the same desk with his son Sharikov.And although they receive different grades, they are learning the same course and are measured by general criteria of academic achievement.
Little Einsteins eventually lose their talents. Alternative education systems (such as the School of Academician Schetinin, Miloslav Balobanov, Valfdorskaya system) proved that children are able to master much larger volumes of information and it is much easier if they do not have to cram. And learning for them is an exciting process.
Try to provide your child with as many opportunities as possible for creative realization. This allows him to feel his individuality. Success in one area, as a thread, pulls an increase in self-esteem in other directions. We are talking about all kinds of sports section, creative circles, hobbies. Support any reasonable initiative of the child, even if it seems to you that playing the drums is not serious, crocheting is impractical, and hang-gliding is dangerous. Let him independently determine his uniqueness and, perhaps, it is he who is destined to become the head of the first Ministry in embroidery in our state for cross-stitching. Who knows?
"Not a hooligan!"
The study is strongly influenced by the microclimate of the team, in which your son finds himself. If he does not have a sense of security, there will not be a particular desire to go to school either. Class dislike, moral pressure, labeled or the appearance of “enemies” always affect the child’s desire to learn. And if the progress rate has decreased, the reason should be started to look first of all in his environment.
try to make the most trusting relationship with your son. And from time to time ask how he “feels” at school. If something is alarming you - it is better not to be lazy and go to the teacher, on the spot finding out that yes how. In some of the worst situations (such as frequent aggression by other children, hostility, non-decreasing constant tension), it may be necessary to act radically, or even change the school altogether.