Almost a year after the death of Zhanna Friske, Dmitry Shepelev, who himself brings up their 3-year-old son Plato, finally gave a frank interview and starred in a photo shoot with the baby. All this time, the TV presenter tried to protect the child from the attention of the press, which was very much due to his scandal with the singer's family.
«The child turned my life upside down- Dmitry admits. - And given all the surrounding circumstances, then turned over and over. Actually, there is nothing to be cunning - now my whole life is subordinated to the interests of my son, adjusted to him. When I leave for work and when I return, what products I order in the supermarket, can I agree to go on a business trip or go to a bar with my friends - every time I make a decision, I start from his regime. ”
“No, my life is not a routine,” continues the proud father. - I'm happy. Of course, I feel that I have ceased to belong to myself. But at the same time, I had never appreciated each moment alone with myself, as well as the time spent with my son.My life has not become more relaxed, this is understandable, but now it is brighter. I am as never before full of strength, hopes and plans for life.
At the same time, I understand that I do not want and do not intend to turn into service personnel with the little ones.My son and I have developed partnerships:Plato already knows that now dad, for example, will go to work, and then our time will come with him when I will not answer the phone, be distracted by books or study - this time is inviolable.
Definitely, at least once a week we, as they say, “go out”. We love the park on Krasnaya Presnya very much, because it reminds me of New York, and he likes to drive there on a children's quad bike. From the institutions of our favorite - "Coffeemania" on Kudrinskaya. They always warmly welcome me and my son, and in the neighborhood they also sometimes give very successful children's daytime musical performances.
... I generally think that children are much smarter and thinner than adults.. And they certainly know better when they need to eat and when they need to sleep. Of course, we make sure that the son ate and slept by the hour. But not authoritarian. Wants to stay at bedtime for half an hour, because in a toy hut with a flashlight she flips through her favorite fairy tale? - Of course yes".
To the question: "What is most important for you in bringing up Plato? What kind of life you try to convey to him? ”Shepelev replies:
“Mostly, these are important things for me, which I hope he will share over time: kindness, prudence, politeness, calmness, generosity, generosity, lightness and humor - that's how I try to behave with him.I forbade others to raise my voice in the presence of my son, to curse and lisp. ”
What, in your opinion, can spoil the child?
"It seems to me,only the absence of love, the inability to love, can spoil a person.For the rest you can not guess.When Plato's mom was littleone time she literally lived in an after-school day kindergarten — two healthy and living parents took her home only on weekends. And the rest of the week, five nights in a row, she spent in this garden alone. It would seem that this can happen? But a beautiful flower has grown in a pile of dung. Therefore, go and figure out what will spoil the child, and what is not. "
What are you not allowing Plato?
«I prohibit only what can interfere with others.So I say: do not do that which will cause inconvenience to others. Let him think. The rest is possible.And I ask you not to be afraid of anything.And we have a taboo on TV and gadgets at home.That is, they are also used from time to time, but very moderately. Watching a cartoon at dinner or sticking into the game on the phone is out of the question. I think Plato watches TV no more than an hour a week. ”
Who would you like to see Plato in the future?
“Let Plato decide.I want him to be happy doing what he loves. For a man, this is the most important thing.Even if daddy wants his son to win Wimbledon. ”
Does Plato ask about mom? Are you telling your child about her?
“This is a delicate topic for me and our family.I spent many hours consulting with child psychologists, discussing how I should be and what to say when the time comes. In the end, I can say the main thing - I tell Plato about my mother every day:about her habits, about her favorite places, about our life before his appearance, in a word, about everything. Together we selected pictures of Jeanne, who are now in our apartment. I want my son to know: he has a mother, she is there and will never leave him. And on my birthday and other holidays, I always say: "We congratulate you with mom ...". An interesting coincidence: recently my son and I had dinner at a cafe, where we used to be often with Jeanne.And for dessert, from a variety of options, he chose a carrot cake. Tasty, I ask. - Highly! - Do you really like? - Yes! So, without knowing it, he chose Jeanne's favorite dessert in this cafe. Of course, I told him about it. ”