When your partner does something thoughtful and pleasant, you may think: “Oh, he really loves me so much.” But are you sure you are not confusing love with manipulation? Here are 8 subtle signs that your partner is actually trying to manipulate you:
1. He constantly checks where you are.
But you think this is cute, because he does it by chance. You are walking with friends when he suddenly writes you messages, "just because you missed you." Nice, isn't it? Not really. Each following message becomes more and more demanding, and now it is waiting for you home early or suspects of treason.
2. He uses the phrase “... but I love you so much!” As an excuse.
Do not you think that every time he does something wrong, for example, becomes too jealous, he immediately tells you that he behaves like this because he loves you so much? Probably in this way he is trying to distract you from his unacceptable behavior.
3. He cannot live without you.
He tells you that you mean so much to him that he will die without you.But it is not even romantic. Some emotional rapists may even threaten suicide to control you and keep you close.
4. He pampers you with gifts that you do not need.
It may be cute, but not when he is trying to change you with these things. Does he buy you new clothes? Trying to furnish your apartment with new objects? Perhaps this is not love, but an attempt to turn you into the person that you are not.
5. He "worries" about you.
That is why he calls and writes to you constantly when you are not around. If you do not answer him immediately, he begins to go crazy or "experience" - as he calls it. In doing so, he even tries to instill in you a sense of guilt for this.
6. He wants to start a family.
This is basically good. But what exactly is he waiting for? So that you leave work and stay at home with your child? Maybe he just wants to isolate you from the whole world and your life, so that you belong only to him? Maybe he wants to control your life?
7. He constantly gives you compliments.
If this happens too often, perhaps he wants you to lose vigilance and try to use your charm to manipulate you.
eight.He offers something "as you feel better."
He cares so much about you, that he will show you how to do your job better, how best to talk to your girlfriend, how to lose weight better. And this is not at all the way you feel better - this is his way of controlling you.