Very often working and tired parents do not notice exactly how they talk to the baby.Trying to quickly finish some business, moms and dads use seemingly innocent phrases that can cause irreparable damage to the child’s psyche. Do not forget that all our social problems come from childhood, maybe even the result of just one simple parental sentence. If you do not use at least 5 expressions introduced below, this will only strengthen family relationships and improve the adult life of your child.
1. Your sister / brother can ... but you can't!
This is one of the most obvious ways to spoil the relationship of brothers and sisters, which is especially often used by parents for some reason. It must be remembered that any comparisons are offensive for children, but comparisons with sisters and brothers are doubly because they incite competition and jealousy. Nothing good can be achieved with such words.
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2. If you misbehave, Babi / Baba Yaga / someone else’s uncle will take you away.
The world of the irrational fears of the child is so great that adding babaev, policemen, dogs, doctors, injections and other fictional and very real characters into it should be qualified as psychological abuse of the child. In addition, in just a couple of years, he will reveal a lie and definitely will not thank for such an attitude.
3. You are a bungler / bummer / clumsy ...
It is completely wrong to assume that insults will force your child to prove that he is “not like that.” Most likely, you will face the fact that the child will reconcile and will only correspond to the label stuck by the parents.
4. I have no money for toys / chocolates / carousels
Parents believe that “no money” is a completely understandable and simple reason for which you can easily motivate your refusal to buy something. At the same time, the child hears this phrase and draws its own conclusions. First, he begins to think that money is the most important thing in life, and you can buy everything from it. Secondly, the baby, therefore, begins to evaluate the success of their parents according to the welfare of the family.
5. Don't worry, it's nothing.
It must be remembered that trifles in the eyes of parents may in fact seem to be serious problems for children. When a child, having shared his “misfortune”, receives a similar answer, he cannot understand why his problems seem trivial to adults. And then everything is simple - the next time he will not come to them with his misfortune, and both with the far-fetched and childish, as well as with adults and very real ones.