Mikhail Labkovsky is a Russian psychologist, known for his harshness in statements and shocking. A practitioner with 30 years of experience can afford some rigidity in his judgments, because his experience saves both his family and his life.
We studied the advice of the relationship guru and selected the most capacious ones.
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Nobody needs someone who does not need himself. And the one who accepts himself as he is, lives a delicious, full life, despite all possible everyday problems.
If you are uncomfortable with a man on the first, second, third date, do not assign a fourth. In the first meetings, the man shows himself in the best possible way, and if it is already unpleasant for you to be with him, nothing good will come of this relationship.
As for young, successful and beautiful women who cannot find a mate, because they, they say, have a high bar, is the inability to relationship and fear of them.
If you want to get married, you need to stop thinking about it.This is the same as the desire to have a doll on the hood, veil and the rest is demo. In healthy people, the situation looks a little different. First, they have the need to love. With this need to love, they find a man who loves them.
Never need to communicate with married men. Fish traded in the fish store, meat - in the meat. Do not waste time. A married man does not need a wife, he already has one at home.
For those in a relationship
If you want to get married, meet or even live together for six months or a year and nothing happens, you need to ask once if he wants a family and a wedding. If a man is not ready to start a family, then it's time to say goodbye to him. In good, of course. Like "I am very warm to you and will continue in the same spirit, but away from you."
Any - and I emphasize this - any woman who stays at home for years and only deals with housekeeping and children is degrading. It's unavoidable. And in the end, a man gets bored with his wife, he begins to consider her stupid, and there he is half a step before the divorce. And note: initially the man did not insist on anything, this woman happily and clapping her hands decided to stay at home.
If he annoys you, just part with him. Do not be afraid to be alone. Not a single man in the whole world is worth breaking himself, caving in under him, neglecting his desires and needs. No one.
It's simple: there he is - the way it is. And there you are - the one that is. You or well together, or need to break up. And it’s better before you take a mortgage and have three children.
The one who is mentally healthy, is guided by his feelings and always chooses himself. Neither beauty nor love requires sacrifice. And if they do, it’s definitely not your story. Bring down. There is no such goal, for which there is something to endure in a relationship.
All your life on tiptoe is not easy, and it is always more painful to be disappointed than to initially show yourself real.
People who do not love themselves cannot love each other, so couples cannot be happy either.
It is necessary to deal with the head, not with the suitors. When a woman says: “I loved” - this is often a story not about love. This is a story about a dragdiler who delivers necessary suffering to her. And healthy love is about how happy you are.
If you do not like how he treats you, does something unpleasant, you tell him about it once. If it doesn't change - goodbye.
A normal person does not continue a relationship in which he is not respected. However, he will not even start them.